Posted: Aug 15, 2012 12:21 PM
Updated: Aug 15, 2012 7:46 PM
I consider myself to be a cautious person. I'm not extremely cautious, but I try to be safe. I have friends who have at times accused me of being paranoid about things like walking in the dark, being in large groups and they way I perceive the way some strangers behave. I have always ignored them and felt that I had good intuition. Having lived in Chicago for a brief period I had to learn to be street smart.
This is a terrifying example of how my intuition failed me. I am a recently divorced woman with a small child. Just like most people, I have an appreciation for nice looking, charming men. This past May I moved from my marital home. The move was heartbreaking and stressful. I was so relieved to have a reputable moving company handle my move. Two twenty something guys moved me in a quick, organized way and it helped with the trauma I was feeling.
One of the movers was very good looking. Now I know you are probably thinking, how could you be checking him out when you were so emotional from the move? That is the thing, I wasn't checking him out. He was charming, talkative, helpful and to top it off easy on the eyes.
His name was "Levi" and he told me he was an Iraqi who bacame a US Marine and now lived here. We had a nice conversation and he did a great job. That should be the end of the story, but it's not. Later that evening after he had left, he texted me saying he had left his tools. I checked the house and sure enough he had. I told him I would leave them outside and he then asked me for a date which I turned down. Over the next month he continued to text me at all hours of the night. Some of the texts had an aggresive tone other didn't . Finally my boyfriend sent a text telling him to leave me alone, which he did. I still have his tools.
I know I should have contacted his employer, but I didn't want to get him in trouble. I will forever regret this decision. Had I contacted his employer, maybe just maybe this horrible thing wouldn't have happened.
A friend of mine sent me this story last night from KOAA. Click here for full story, but here are the main points.
"Levi" is actually Sarmad Fadhi Mohammed, he along with 4 other Iraqi men are being charged with sexual assault for what police are calling the worst sexual assault they have ever seen.One officer stated "I would tell you that this is one of the most horrific sexual assault crimes I've seen in my career as a police officer"
One suspect, 22-year-old Jasim Mohammed Hassin Ramadon, has already been charged with 21 counts of felony sexual assault, crimes of violence and use of a weapon.
I realize we are innocent until proven guilty, but based on my own experience it looks pretty damning.
I'm struggling with my emotions. I feel so fortunate that God was looking out for me despite my own ignorance. More than that I feel so very guilty for not reporting this man. Would it have changed the outcome of this situation?